Thank you so much for responding to my post as you also know it is kind of difficult to vent about our fears and concerns to friends and family when they are not familiar with the hardship of being with a Doctor. We have moved four times to 3 different states to accommodate his career, and had 3 children along the way. Plx express what yu think as you ladies are more experienced in this stuff! Continuing these traditions reminds us and our children that we are part of something bigger than just us, than just our little family and our daily struggles. I'm afraid he's going to be more in love with work than me and a family. Right off the bat, I have to admit that being married and committed to our marriage has been of utmost importance for my husband and I - throughout all of his training. When you are disappointed that he is called into the hospital, focus on what he is providing for someone in need.Next
So all this is pretty new for us. Im a 19 year old female who is pre med at a university right now. I will be checking your Blog frequently. I have been married to an Interventional Radiologist 30 yrs. Situation since taken me by surprise never realized all the chaos doctors go through until now. Are you a doctor single or doctor admirers? I am so in need of a support group. It kills me that we are now diminished to a mere statistic.Next
But it does make it hard for me to develop and strengthen our relationship. I wish I had not ignored the signs whiles we dated but now I am out of energy. Other doctors' spouses are going through very similar kinds of experiences. Our exciting features involve photo sharing, online chat rooms, private emailing, sending private messages and winks. I've been searching around for advice, and this blog page is probably the most informative on the topic of dating a doctor as I've been able to find anywhere. He's in his second year of residency and we're talking about me leaving everything to get engaged and move up with him. I am a soon-to-be Surgeon's wife and my boyfriend and I have started discussing the changes that are going to happen when he enters his residency.Next
God Bless you and all the other doctors' wives that have transparently shared their experiences on your page. Also thank God that when he starts his real podiatry job next year he will have steady hours. So for anyone reading this - I completely agree with all your advice! I have met police officers, doctors, and lawyers on different sites. When we started dating, he was in his fellowship. I would suggest having a list of chores that need to be done, and anyone can check them off.Next
A shift may be done at 9pm and not end until 11pm and there's nothing to be done about it. Oh, and perhaps you're thinking to yourself - that woman needs to talk to him! Why shouldn't both people be responsible for making it work. Whether looking for quality friendship, true doctor love or a doctor to hang out with, the best doctors are found on this site. We have 3 children and have now been married 17 years I have been a single mother for years , there life is the hospital. To Anonymous, Your comment also left me heartbroken. I never had a doctor in my family nor did his family have any lawyer till we got married.Next
One of my concerns is that we have started talking about starting a family soon and I would be 100% sure if only I knew that he was going to help me out, but when i think of how extremely uncomfortable it feels to even as him to walk the dogs once in a while it scares me to even think about having kids. The man I started dating 8 years ago, long before med school was in the picture, is disappearing before my very eyes. It is helpful to know that there are others who are experiencing the same emotions and to hear about your coping methods and advice. Physical, mental, and emotional abuse for years, not to mention the fact that I had no say in any financial decisions for most of our marriage. I do feel frustrated sometimes when spends his limited free time to go out with the guys, but I realize that he needs this release every once in a while. I fully understand the fact that I need to do those things so I can accomplish my dream.Next
Now, give it a try, and come back and see me in six weeks. I've supported him for 5 years, taken on that Doctor's Partner role, put my ambitions on the back burner, and it hasn't done a lick of good. He is toning down his opinions and ocd ways a little, to be fair to him, I try to ignore the strong opinions, and him rearranging things. That being said, when you marry a doctor, you marry the profession too. We try to have a 'date' night although at the moment it is about once a month. She is single, nice looking and doesnt have time to get out much.Next
Anyways, I am sorry to go on and on. Am I sure I can handle the lifestyle? At the end of the day, nothing I say or do can help him see this. There are other rewards, like him being available during the week or on odd days when other dads aren't, and knowing that we don't have to struggle financially as many of our friends do in this tough economy. So I asked you three here, because your the most important people in my life. Once we sign up for a race, our date nights become bike rides, runs and even sometimes a swim in an indoor pool or lake.