What explanation do you give to your little brother, sister, or Muslim friends and youth who are striving along the path of submission with you? I wouldn't touch her or really hold her hand, probably just hug her occasionally which isn't sexual at all. You may think a hug is innocent but in Islam it says to not follow the footsteps of Shaytan. Do you think a Muslim who rushes into marriage because they want sex or not to be single would have a long lasting marriage without divorce? Coz it quite hard as he reallt needs me to encourage him and support him at his bad condition right now. I'm not a scholar or trained in this. The Clear Evidences There are some folks out there who date but due to factors like religion, trust, outrage from parents etc. Allah mentions that all your works will be in vain.
But, that is going into a whole different dimension, perhaps saved for another day. I hope this helped you my good brothers and sisters. To escape this destroying trap set by Satan, we need to take the following points seriously. Your interest in this relationship, is it to take away some of the personal loneliness? Taking a Christian wife spreads Islam by preventing the woman from marrying a Christian man and having Christian children. I have heard a few negative things about him and his other relationships but who knows if its true or not. It's especially important to salvation. I'm pretty sure no one wants to be on an episode of Maury, right? No matter how hard you try on your own or rush the process, you will never find the perfect match that God is waiting to give you.Next
Human beings are eternally punished. Marriage in Islam is a beautiful way for two people to bring together their families, heritage and culture for the purpose of bringing more little Muslims into the world, in love, commitment and dedication to Allah, His Book, His prophet, peace be upon him, and surrender to Him in peace Islam. A hug again may seem innocent but it can trigger the need for more contact. But now I suddenly feel guilty due to the fact that he's my best friend's ex, and because I feel like I'm breaking my parents' trust. There's a few details of your situation that I'm unclear about. Interfaith marriage inhibits Biblical partnership in parenting, while in Islam, children born to a Muslim father are automatically born Muslim.Next
But the fear of gossip and the older generation's fear of sexual relations between young men and women have made the concept of dating more intriguing for younger Muslims. And we started talking and not talking. Secondly, you are not to choose on the basis of the meeting. That may seem scary but it's better than making mistakes down the road and hiding your struggles. Tell him it's this way or the highway. Less often they meet at school or in their local community. Shaitan always wants things to escalate.Next
And you are very much correct when you say that it puts me in an uncomfortable position! Qur'an 30:21 They keep their chastity. Lawful to you in marriage are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture Jews and Christians before your time when you have given their due Mahr bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage , desiring chastity i. My parents say It is against Islam. Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. I was afraid you'd say that I would have to be blunt but I guess in order to really get him to stop bothering me I eventually must educate him on my faith and why it does not allow meaningless dating. We're just average folk who understand what it's like to live the solo life in the twenty-first century. Ideally, you'd go to her parents and let them know your interest and court her.Next
It is believed that God weighs an individual's good deeds and against his or her sins on the Day of Judgement and punishes those individuals whose evil deeds outweigh their good deeds. First off thanks sister for coming across my blog. However, I am not sure if I can. Should i just leave him and wait until he's ready financially? I hope anyone here can answer me. Before you begin to feel sorry for yourself, ask yourself if you are willing to trade this awesome blessing for the temporary enjoyment your friends are experiencing? Break up with him this will only lead you into the wrong path it is a sin ans haraam.
In addition to what Muslim scholars agree are the principal seven sins, the idea exists that the major sins extend far past the seven. Those who transgress these limits are the transgressors. They spend time talking over the phone or on the Internet and even going on dates, though for Strict Muslims, a chaperone is always present. Maybe you can answer some of my other questions. We're very young and I know what we did was wrong and I try to repent to Allah as much as I can.Next
It was really well written and very interesting that i couldn't do anything but to keep on reading. But Allah did not just tell us not to commit zina. What he's doing for now is that he's trying to make you emotionally attached to him, once this happens he can do what he wants with you. Why not just take the safer route and pursue her the halal way rather than the iffy way where you're always wondering in the back of your mind if you're doing things right or not. Dear brother in Islam, we hope that the main points of the issue have become clear. First, the Prophet sws has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram unrelated man and a woman to be alone together.Next