No distractions --even lovable ones -- just yet. Never post anything more than two years old. The Photo Professional photographs aren't necessary, but posting a cellphone photo taken at arm's length isn't cool, and using never makes for a pleasant surprise when you meet a date. You're not applying for the job of cook, maid, or nanny. Here's how bringing up the family too early can backfire: If you write: I have two daughters who are the love of my life.
Offer what marketers call the value proposition. Most adults enjoy dinner, movies, music, and travel. In her study of marital preferences, based on data from the National Survey of Families and Households, Dr. Attention to Detail While I notice a woman's photo first, I also enjoy reading her story describing her 50-plus years of living and. Lesley Dormen tells us how she got the guy. Keep the first impression focused on you. Check, for example, that your list of activities includes more than cooking, gardening, needlepoint, crafts, and yard sales.
What is it like to be with me? If exercise is an important part of your life and a physically active partner is a must, suggest hiking, bicycling, tennis or a long walk in the country as possible activities. Here are a few tips to get you started. Every year we take a wonderful vacation together. The Opening Profile How to Turn a Browse into a Click The opening profile is your first and perhaps most important dating tool. Maybe your hair did look fabulous on the night of your high school reunion, but the other folks in the photo are a distraction. Okay, maybe in the past you were burned by men, but you need to decide now whether you want to date 'em or hate 'em.Next
Create a persona and your profile stands out. I wanted someone on my level, someone without a tongue ring or tattoos and who could answer, 'Where were you when President Kennedy was assassinated? If nothing tastes better to you than a cold beer and a hotdog at the ballpark, say so. The hostility repels the good guys as well as the bad. And there's no excuse for spelling or grammatical errors. The better written and complete, the more appealing the story is. .Next
Be concise, clear, and watch out for typos and grammatical errors. Put modesty aside for 15 minutes and jot down your wonderful attributes. More to the point: I wanted to attract a man who appreciated subtlety. You may have a fascinating profession to brag about, as did PaleoGal, ArtLady, and Novelist53. You want to appear dynamic in a number of spheres. Don't waste time and valuable words on apologies like these from.Next
Some sites require you to disclose height, weight, and age right up front. Here's a photo of me with my sister in Paris. Props that make you feel soulful, frisky, and fascinating help you make those claims for yourself in your ad. If you're 42 but look 32, say so or let your picture do the talking. Ken Solin is an author, lecturer and blogger who writes on the topic of families, relationships, dating and more from the perspective of a 50-plus. My gorgeous friend Marion wondered why she wasn't getting e-mail.
They wanted to know what the heck she had around her neck. Guys are not online to do a rescue mission. Only someone you're very intimate with should be asked to do such heavy lifting. It's the distinguishing detail that will catch the eye of your compatible partner. My movie is strolling arm in arm with a sweetheart along the tree-lined Seine on a sunny spring morning, the Musee d'Orsay Impressionists, a late lunch at a sidewalk cafe and an afternoon of lovemaking. Be the person you want to meet. Headshots work, but a potential date also wants to see the rest of you.Next
Clean out language that pigeonholes you as a housebound Heloise. Would you respond to these women or flee? Don't use this important real estate to describe the person you're looking for. Look relaxed and happy and you've got the perfect pose. Do not use a favorite old photo and a bio from a previous online attempt; that's not smart online dating. Your Passions Express your passions as activities you'd like to share. Never indulge the inner narcissist. One of the fundamental rules in sales and marketing is to know to whom you're selling.Next